Jeff - you are 100% right - a man is basically as faithful as his options. It's usually only ugly fat fellas who say otherwise. Not hard to stay monogamous when no one else is offering! I don't blame Tiger - he is young, rich and in great demand - and after his wife had children she probably stopped putting out. His only fault was he disobeyed the 11th commandment.

everytime i see or read news on some well known person who is having an affair while married i wonder why is this news? what business is it of ours anyway and who really cares what other people are doing? While this sort of behaviour is not in accord with my own personal standards i dont see that it should become public knowledge. i think the only purpose reporting on this sort of stuff is to sell papers. clearly some people seem to enjoy reading about other peoples problems or there would be no market for such drivel.

I have always been frustrated at the double standards of society regarding the moral expectations we place on those in the public spotlight. Fidelity is an obvious example of this. I don't necessarily agree that every man would "sow his oats" if given the opportunity but agree that many do. These public figures are people who have sharpened the edge of a latent talent in one particular sphere, be it sport, finance or the creative pursuits, to a razor edge and achieve success on the back of that. As a result the public elevate them to the lofty height of the celebrity pedestal. Folk, once you get past this one over-developed skillset these people are just as dysfunctional as the rest of us, if not more so! Why should we expect things of them that we do not expect, or forgive more readily, in each other. Role model schmole model, the public just love to see the mighty fall. It's spiteful voyourism. Jeff, loved the article. I hope it stimulates some useful debate amongst your readership.

I read an article in the last couple of months by Kaysar Trad the spokesperson for some mufti (I can't remember exactly) and muslims in general. He basically made the same argument you just did to justify men having multiple wives. I personally don't think many Aussie men could handle more than one wife (hand holders or not).

There are different standards for White and non-White men.

If the concept of monogamy is there simply to assure men that the children popping out of women they've had sex with are theirs, then mandatory DNA testing of children at birth would effectively remove any need for monogamy. Realistically though, there’s a bit more to it than that. If monogamy is there to ensure a man’s progeny is his own, then it follows that he has some desire to play a part in that child’s life, otherwise why would he care who the child’s father is? Beyond that, whether your relationship is monogamous or not is irrelevant as long as you’re honest with your sexual partners. If you have a person you’re regularly shagging, then they should be aware of whether you intend to take whatever opportunity comes your way. That way, they can make an informed decision about whether they want to be in that type of relationship with you. Personally, I wouldn’t want my wife running around shagging whoever she likes, so in the interests of fairness, I would extent the same courtesy to her and not throw one up someone just because the opportunity presents itself.

As far as trophy wives are concerned, it’s a bit hard for me to muster up any sympathy for them. If they decide to forgo the self respect garnered from building your own economic freedom in order to attain a life of ease and luxury by marrying a rich man, then they need to understand that their position is entirely dependent on whims of this man and if he wants to screw around, you need to suck up it and cop it on the chin. Additionally domestic violence is never acceptable in any relationship. You can't go chasing your meal ticket around the mansion trying to scratch his face off or beat him to death with a golf club, no matter how many broads your meal ticket has thrown one up when on tour.

Oh Jeff, you are just asking for trouble with this one.... watch out for the flying handbags when you step out for lunch today....

Male humans might not be biologically wired for monogamy, but we do have a big, powerful brain that can recognise the benefits of monogamy. I reckon that, as long as man's need for sex is met within a relationship, monogamy works just fine. The problems often arise when a wife will do almost anything ~ move heaven and earth to make a wonderful home, cook michelin standard dinners, do everything ~ except give the hubby 10 minutes of sex a day. Blokes generally only require 2 things : sex and food. If those things are provided, they will move heaven and earth for their wives or partners, be happy and compliant, do whatever is asked. If deprived : problems.

[well......the possibility of 10 mins a day is better than an hour once every 3 months, eh? And the difrference in a blokes demeanour, attitude, confidence would be astounding. And who needs an hour anyway? If we're honest : who really needs 10 minutes? Wives and female partners : invest 10 minutes, reap massive rewards].