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Obsessive hatred

We've all spent time with them, people who are so obsessed with what they see as an injustice that they can think of and talk of nothing else. The cases we're most likely to encounter in our personal lives are those of divorcing or separating couples, and in extreme instances the hatred and the urge for revenge can seem to be a psychosis.

At work the obsessive hatreds I encounter are those of people in dispute with bureaucracy, usually a council, or with a former wife who, they say, is denying them their access to the children. In some of those latter cases the men seem close to the line between rational and irrational response.

This week I have read that psychiatrists in the US are seeking to have post-traumatic embitterment disorder recognised as a mental illness. The German psychiatrist who came up with the name, Dr Michael Linden, says people with this disorder are angry, pessimistic, aggressive, hopeless haters intent on revenge. He points to an estimate of one to two per cent of the population suffering this all-consuming bitterness, and says "they are almost treatment resistant - revenge is not a treatment".

I have met many people I am sure fall into this category, more than most, I would say, because of my work. In The Herald today I outline the sad case of a professional Hunter man who appears to have developed a mental illness years after he became obsessed with a perceived injustice. I don't know whether it was the obsession that caused the mental illness or the mental illness that caused the obsession, but on the face of it at least the mental illness in an apparent form followed the obsession.

Fortunately I have never been afflicted by a long-lived angry obsession, and I hope never to be, but I think I can imagine the progression. My response, at some point, would be to walk away from it all, advice I give, to no avail, to some of the people who approach me. Perhaps these people see walking away as defeat, even cowardice.

Have you had what is now called post-traumatic embitterment disorder? Have you seen its progression in someone else?

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Yes I've met them - good examples are the few poor souls obsessed with closing the RAAF Bombing Range at Salt Ash. All rational arguement has gone - but it consumes their lives.
Posted by bluebomber, 21/05/2009 9:50:48 PM
The existence of these people perhaps acts as a deterrent to those who would otherwise behave in a nasty way to others.
Posted by Jackson, 22/05/2009 5:13:00 AM
So true Jeff. You wonder how people who have been so close physically and emotionally during a marriage can be so bitter and acrimonious when they split. We are truly funny animals mate. Long live love.
Posted by jake 69, 22/05/2009 7:38:12 AM
We have seen a recent only too real example of this behaviour relating to Matty Johns. The amount of people who were prepared to heap invective on his, at the worst, grubby behaviour indicates a supressed bitterness in their lives. They were only too willing to condem hate a person for perceived behaviour by appying todays standards to those of 7 years ago.
Posted by MizJasper, 22/05/2009 8:40:26 AM
oooh I hope I haven't been one of those people..... I'm in agreeance with you jeff.... walk away, just walk away. Nothing is worth wasting your life over hatred. It's such an ugly emotion
Posted by leahkf, 22/05/2009 9:09:31 AM
yes i worked with a person consumed with hatred and rage at her ex. back in those days i was a smoker and liked to go out of the office on my breaks and have a smoke while staring mindlessly at the sky or trees. but there was not much relaxation to be had as she would find me for a (onesided) chat and my break was overtaken by her tales of extreme hatred and vitriol about her ex. People like this certainly take a toll on anyone unfortunate enough to have to listen to them. You have to know which battles are worth fighting and how far to take the fight and who to bore with your stories about the battle. more often than not lifes battles are just not worth the trouble and actually cost you more emotionally than you would consider possible. maybe i am just too lazy to be bothered.
Posted by snr sergeant smith, 22/05/2009 9:37:27 AM
Nobody hates bogan deadbeat adulterers and druggies, we just pity them - and all who come into contact with them. Mindless bogan fanboys who worship bogan deadbeats though....
Posted by Scott Hillard, 22/05/2009 9:51:48 AM
Jeff, your columns indicate that you are a very judgemental person, this in itself suggest a self loathing disguised hatred. Get over yourself.
Posted by Dave, 22/05/2009 9:59:08 AM
Jeff was your father a journalist too?
Posted by chaff and oats, 22/05/2009 10:31:38 AM
No. He worked at BHP.
Posted by Jeff Corbett on 22/05/2009 10:48:45 AM
I'm one of them, I don't feel it's by choice, I just don't see a way out. A while ago I was attacked. As I miraculously escaped, I ran down the street thinking of places to hide from my attacker, I thought about how many missing persons the police had on their files..I thought about all unsolved crimes and I was so proud I had escaped. In this case, I would be able to tell the police what had happened. I had actually saved them from work. I felt like a hero for escaping. This was all shortlived. The police did nothing. Stupidly, I was asked if I wanted to go to hospital even though I had almost just died. The hospital terrorized me and so I was attacked once again and allowed to contact no-one. How do you walk away from that? Then I was stalked by the attacker. I sold my house that I had worked so hard for.I bought it when I was 22. I wanted to be so independant and responsible. I spent my youth working hard, paying off the house instead of buying clothes and partying. Now, I have no house, I spent the profits from the house sale moving from place to place. Yearning to find somewhere I could relax but there was nowhere I could imagine living. There was no where on the earth that I could imagine living/staying. After being attacked, I went to see a lawyer, who just said "what do you want me to do" and also said "yes well you are small you would be easy to bury". I went to the police station and said "please, can you rethink your decision to let the attacker go". All i got was "well your small, Ive met alot of small people who are feisty. That's my decision and I'm not cahnging it". My career has suffered, I have a hecs debt because I was in the middle of a degree. I am in the rental market and the amount of times I have been screwed by real estate agents is ridiculous. Am I bitter, hell yes. I'm trying to get a job now, employers expect experience for basic jobs, advertise "excellent" wages that end up being $16 an hour, after training of course, and if you do get your foot in the door for an interview or a trial, they will just lie to you, use you for a few hours and never call you. The way people treat eachother is pathetic. I'm still trying to pick up the pieces. At this rate, I can't get it together. There's a gaping hole that I can't account for as I have done nothing but run and hide. I even think my social skills are inadequate because I'm afraid of the consequences of putting myself out there and as said when I do, I'm just taken advantage of. Welcome to lovely Newcastle. Oh and am I feisty? I wasn't then, I could have ditched the attacker from my life sooner if I was that strong.
Posted by map, 22/05/2009 10:42:48 AM
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